Choose your words wisely as it represents you
Words are one of the most powerful tool in the world that can leave a major impact in one’s life. It's really important to choose your words wisely as it can be influential to many. To choose words with care, you must know the do’s and don'ts which will be helpful to you in various aspects of your life. Words have more power than we know and knowing when to say what will benefit us in many different ways. Let's see a few tips that can help you in becoming a better communicator.
Think before you speak
Words can be pleasing if you use them right or can be destructive if used in a wrong way. While making a conversation, you need to focus at various aspects that will keep the topic going. The first thing you need to take care of is to think before you speak. Words once spoken cannot be taken back. For example, if you mistakenly promise someone during critical situations then you will have to keep it no matter how hard it is. If you fail to deliver, then you may lose the trust of a person in some cases it can also break the relationship that you have with them. That's why it's better to think twice before you speak than to regret later.
Don't let your ego come in between
Sometimes you need to understand the gravity of the situation and act accordingly. If you let your ego speak when it's not necessary, the consequences won't be good. People will try to provoke you but don’t let it affect you or your situation. Be the bigger person in a conversation and try to calm the moment by keeping your ego aside and behaving maturely. This will give you a better chance of understanding what the other person means to say and will let you maintain your relationship with them.
Refuse to engage in negative conversation
Don’t be a part of a group that speaks poorly of others. They intend to spread negativity through their words. If you spend more time with them then there are chances that you adopt their behavior and start speaking ill of others too. Avoiding such conversations or group can be beneficial to you in many ways. The benefits you will enjoy when taking a step back from such circumstances include building a good reputation, protecting your values, and influencing others to turn positive. Anything you speak about others will also influence people’s view of you. So prevent yourself from engaging in any kind of negative conversations.
Your words reflect your character
Richard Carlson once said, "When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.” if you analyze this saying then we can easily figure out that the words spoken by us can tell more about our character than about others. So if you try to speak bad about others or try to influence people for your own benefit then it can cause harm to your reputation or could be questionable to your character. Try not to be a bad influence which will help you protect your reputation and relation.
Words once spoken stays with us forever
Words can be a very powerful tool that can either influence a person or destroy them. It takes hardly a second or two to ruin a relationship, be it professional or personal relations. If you insult or make fun of someone, you might not know how the other person who is getting humiliated in front of everyonefeels. They may be disappointed with you regarding the way you behaved with them. Later if you realize your mistake and no matter how apologetic you feel after that, it won’t make any difference as the harm is already done. So take care when you utter or write words as once told, it can never be brought back.
There can be times when situations can get out of hands or it doesn't favor you. At those times, it's important to stay calm and handle the situation with grace. You need to be careful with words as our mind doesn't go well with such situations. Use words such as “we will talk about it later or some solutions will come our way” which will help to handle the situation better and fortunately there is no harm done in the process. This attitude can create a healthy environment thus preventing any bad outcome.
You may come across some people who are arrogant and dominating in nature. Such people are hard to handle and difficult to take care of. Due to their dominating nature and arrogant behavior they can be hard on people and could shout or show anger at times. It's very important to be polite with them as it prevents any sort of incidence that could lead to a fight. Don't carry on the discussion with anger or ill words as it will only worsen the situation.
Use pleasing words
How to carry oneself and speak right all the time is an art, it takes conscious effort and a lot of practice. Not everyone knows how to do it properly. The words you speak also tells about the values you have imbibed from your home and surrounding. When you are meeting someone for the first time, use polite phrases like “nice to meet you” or “how are you?" as it will leave a good impression on them. Greet your elders with respectful words or ask them whether they need any help by framing the sentence such as, “how can I help you?” or “is there something that I can do for you?” Using such phrases will build respect as well as make others feel good about you.
These are the various techniques or tips that you can follow to be a good communicator which shall definitely help you choose your words wisely.